3 Ways I untangled my worth from achievement…
WHOLE SUCCESS WEEKLY #14
When I left corporate in April of 2024, I felt an immediate sense of lightness.
It was as if I had reversed years in age.
My days were mine.
My energy was mine.
My future was…mine.
I had followed a pull deep inside. One that told me there was more.
More alignment. More presence. More life.
For the first few months, I rode that wave of freedom. But then…
The old patterns came rushing back.
At the time, I didn’t understand what was happening.
Now I know: it was my nervous system seeking safety in the only ways it knew how.
Doing.
Proving.
Achieving.
Because in a blink, I had walked away from almost everything I had ever tied my identity to:
Leader in tech
Top performer in my org
Major financial contributor to my family
And with that loss of identity came a quiet scramble to re-anchor my value.
So I did what so many of us do when we feel exposed - I tried to earn my worth again.
Quietly. Compulsively. Automatically.
I became an even harsher boss than the one I left.
Working just as many hours as corporate
Pressuring myself just as hard
Only difference was: I loved the work I was doing.
But it was the same pattern.
What truly broke this cycle for good wasn’t mindset work.
It wasn’t better boundaries.
It wasn’t achieving the results I wanted.
It was getting to the root of where it all began.
Here's what finally brought me home to myself & my worth:
1. Understanding my system and protectors
I wasn’t a “people pleaser” or a “top performer.”
That was my nervous system trying to stay safe. Being aware of these patterns, helped me reclaim choice.
👉 Take the quiz I made to uncover your protector archetype
2. Letting my body be my compass - not my monkey mind
I’m talking screaming in the car.
Punching pillows.
Sobbing in the fetal position.
Letting the full emotional wave move through me - especially the uncomfortable ones.
👉 Watch this 90-second clip from one of my previous workshops on releasing emotion
3. Meeting the younger me inside
The one who had been running the show behind the scenes.
The one who just wanted to feel loved, safe, and free.
👉 Here’s a LinkedIn post where I share more on this.
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This past week alone, I’ve held 3 private 1:1 healing sessions.
We softened the shame.
We reconnected her to herself.
We built trust in the unknown.
Because this isn’t about “fixing.”
It’s about finally feeling like you again.